Why are we so hard on ourselves? Lately this questions has been crossing my mind what feels like everyday. We are all dealing with different types of stress, caused by different things in our lives. My stress has left my mind questioning a lot of things,and most of all searching for balance.
I subscribe to a lot of daily newsletters. It never fails that when I see a title like “How to be Successful and Have a Healthy Work Life Balance” or “5 Things You Can Do Right Now to Be Less Stressed,” I click on the article and immediately read. There is a constant back and forth in my mind looking for verification that the decisions I’m making in my life are the right ones. My recent realization is that the affirmation I am looking for exists but not in the way I expected. There might not be some great sign giving me the thumbs up. But Believing in myself and trusting in my decisions will lead to a life I am proud of.
A majority of these questions stemmed from the high amount of stress I have been feeling for the past few months. The stress started with my job. My job has a serious busy season, and no matter how much up front work is done things always feel crazy. This year the stress hit me extra hard. I leaned hard on Joel for emotional support and looked to him for the positivity I was struggling to find in myself. With support I got through the crazy months and finally feel like I am coming out on the other side.
As I look back I realize that how I felt is not sustainable for me. Not even if it is only a once a year thing. Cue my search for balance. I have done a lot of reflection and am working on really honing in habits that give me comfort in my daily life. Come next year, or any other super stressful times I will have habits that will help me feel like myself while under stress.
Journaling is one habit that has helped me a ton. I carry a journal with me all the time and jot down a few sentences when it feels natural. I do not hold myself to a strict schedule. Some nights I’m super tired and it is just not in the cards. My journaling varies everyday but a few things I do regularly are writing down a giant list of all the questions swirling around in my mind. Seeing the questions on a sheet of paper in front of me makes these questions not seem so daunting. I also like to jot down things I am grateful for,especially in the morning. This includes things like waking up in a place I love, being able to walk to work, and having a few spare minutes to read.
As silly as this might sound having Kombucha everyday brings my body balance. My stomach has been sensitive for as long as I remember. When I am under a lot of stress my stomach gets so upset. Having Kombucha everyday gives my stomach the probiotics it wants and creates some regularity. Plus I love drinking it!
Setting a Playdate for MyselfI got this idea from the Podcast Happier with Gretchen Rubin episode #178. The idea is to set a playdate for yourself just like you would for your child. Block actual time off on your calendar and do something that brings you joy. This should be something that truly makes you happy. It does not have to serve you any benefit other than happiness. My go to playdate is going to the movies by myself. I love not looking at my phone for a few hours and eating some popcorn.
These few things have helped me feel so much more balanced. Aside from adding these practices,